With the increasing use of Social Media, cheating spouses are now being caught red-handed with their hands in the cookie jar quite often. Just recently, in East Africa,Tanzania’s Celebrity Super Star Diamond broke the internet with news of having a baby with video vixen Hamisa Mobetto.
While we were recovering from the Diamond drama bang! Another spectacle, by famous comedian Kevin Hart, who had the audacity to make a sex video and cheat on his heavily pregnant wife. Well the wife was his former mistress. They say in this case, what goes around comes around but I digress.
These stories broke the Internet. The women were up in arms, the feminists were raging. Men are trash was trending. I believe men were shaking in their boots hoping they won’t be next on the chopping board. I thought finally time for men to step up and own up to their mistakes and start treating women right. Lo and Behold! It was just but a dream.
To those readers who may not know these celebrities a bit of back story. Zari is an almost 40+ woman with five kids,the last two being from Diamond. She is therefore mature and independent as she has a host of businesses. Therefore, such an embarrassment to her family should have led her to leave the cheating lying ‘swine’… right? Wrong. Instead she went into a full out social media war with Hamisa and promptly forgave Diamond even taunting the other woman that all was a mistake gone too far. As for Kevin Harts’ wife she proceeded to forgive her man and then did a family photo shoot with lions, maybe to show the strength of their love.
So ladies notice the trend here, men cheat, get caught and are promptly forgiven. Their cheating is in fact not their fault and they were victims of circumstances. Have we as women lost our sense of dignity and respect in that we shall stay in relationships even when they are toxic and unhealthy. Are we allowing our men to run rampant since they know they have a ride or die at home who will not leave them no matter what? Has this always been the case or have the standards been so greatly reduced. What generations of men are we raising who will know cheating and causing harm to their women is not only acceptable but the norm. I believe it’s time we women come together and take a stand and have the men be held accountable for their actions.
If the reverse was true and it was a woman who got caught out, I’m pretty sure they would be chastised by society and be promptly kicked out by their men. What is this double standard? And why is it accorded to men only. Ladies why are we quick to forgive lying cheating men. Why are we allowing ourselves to stay in emotionally abusive relationships and publicly denying it on social media. Instead of tacking the inward issues of the relationship we attack the other woman who was a victim just as you.
Girls we need to take back our power! We need to stand up for ourselves. If we have managed to stand up for ourselves in the workplace and fight for equal rights. We need equal respect in our relationships. No relationship is perfect but loyalty, respect, trust and honesty are core values in a strong relationship. Lets’ put some respect on our names and kick cheating to the curb. It’s so 2017 and we over 2017 we moving forward into 2018.